A Bigger Feminist: Beyoncé or Maggie Parker?

I am highly wary of the term feminism. I’ve found those that practice this particular ideology don’t seek equality, but rather want power. I can’t even bear to read most articles on the topic. Like this one, titled Beyoncé is my kind of feminist,

Beyonce performs with Destiny's Child
Beyonce performs with Destiny’s Child

According to Neil McCormick, this song is “cringe inducing, with lots of sensuous moaning about the ways in which the trio will serve their man”. I’m surprised he didn’t make more of the fact that Beyoncé is calling her next tour theMrs. Carter Show(Jay Z’s official surname) – as this surely further fuels his limited argument about what it is to be feminist and the fact that Beyonce surely cannot be one. By his logic this display of hers, showing off that she is happily married to a man, Beyoncé must surely get some feminist points deducted?

So here is it again. The same old myth: that in order to be a feminist, you have to live a life solely dedicated to publicly airing your feminist views, only talking about power of women (never men) whilst burning your entire underwear drawer.

I find it interesting that a female bull rider named Maggie Parker is in the news:

Ms Parker became professional last June after tackling a bucking bull for the full eight seconds needed to qualify as a pro. She relocated to Santa Maria, California, where she is being trained by top mentor Gary Leffew.

Maggie Parker, trained by Gary Leffew
Maggie Parker, female bull rider

Her current percentage of staying on bulls is 35-40 per cent – which is a normal average for professional riders.

But despite winning plaudits as a female in a predominantly male sport, Ms Parker said she still faces difficulties in being accepted – especially when she gets bucked off a bull.

“They [men] say, ‘This is why girls shouldn’t ride bulls and girls aren’t made for this,'” she said, adding: “But it all depends on the person.

“You’re either a good bull rider or you’re not. It takes a long time to gain people’s respect and get treated the same as the men.

“Sometimes it’s been harder for me because when you’re learning how to ride a bull you’re going to get bucked off – and you’re going to get hurt. It’s just not going to look very pretty while you’re riding.”

The bottom line: to get respect, show proficiency in your field. Or show character in learning how to excel in whatever profession you work in. The best kind of respect is that which is earned. That has nothing to do with birth, race, gender, any of that. Another hint: if you are always respectful, you will be respected. If for no other reason than people admire those that are respectful.